Kari [00:00:00]:
Do you know those movies where someone is in distress, and out of nowhere, a mysterious helper shows up and makes everything good again? And everyone wonders, was that an angel? That is how you’ll feel after meeting our guest today. He is heaven sent. Welcome to get psyched with Kari Samuels, where you’ll find inspiration to create a magical life. Here, you’ll experience all things divine. So tune in and let the magic begin. Welcome, everyone. I am so excited. I’m extra psyched today because I get to introduce you to someone so amazing.
Kari [00:00:54]:
His name is Reginald Lewis, and you may know him because he’s been on television, and he’s been on the Steve Harvey Show and NBC, and he’s had a show in Las Vegas. And he’s an amazing medium, psychic medium. He’s a healer. He’s a multidimensional channel. He is the soul teacher, and, you know, I’m all about the soul here. And he has so much wisdom, and his presence is so healing. And I know you’ll see this as soon as you are experiencing him. So without further ado, here is Reginald Lewis.
Kari [00:01:35]:
Hello, Reginald.
Reginald Lewis [00:01:37]:
Hi. Thank you for having me.
Kari [00:01:39]:
Beaming because I’m so excited. I’ve had a reading with Reginald, and well, again, I wouldn’t call it a reading because Reginald is a lot of things. And so, like, different than mediums, other mediums, he doesn’t just and by the way, being a medium is an incredible gift when people can help you heal from grief and give you that connection to your departed loved ones. Reginald, as a soul teacher, talks about your life and helping you elevate your spirit. And he also has an intention to elevate humanity, which is a shared intention of ours. So, Reginald, thank you so much again. So this is one of the reasons I’m excited to share your wisdom and energy with everyone because I’ve gotten to experience that with you. Oh, and I want to mention one more thing.
Kari [00:02:40]:
You actually now have something called the soul matchmaker or the spiritual matchmaker?
Reginald Lewis [00:02:47]:
Yes. So, yeah, I just launched a company, matchmaking company, called My Soul Matchmaker. Yes. So now I’m helping people with my guests to find love.
Kari [00:02:57]:
I love it. And the the inner yenta in me loves that. That’s a matchmaking. Probably my ancestors back in the day, I’m sure I had somebody there that was I, as a psychic, as a professional psychic, have tried to do that for my friends, and I’m terrible at it. So I’m glad glad that you have an actual gift for it. So can you tell us in your words what your unique gifts are because people don’t realize that they hear the word psychic, and they think we’re all mediums, and we all talk to departed loved ones. Like, for me, personally, as a psychic, my specialty is talking to the guides that help you plan your life before you’re born, which is very different than the people who just passed over. It’s like the other side of the spectrum there.
Kari [00:03:48]:
So can you tell us what your specific unique gifts are? Because part of this show is helping people express their unique gifts.
Reginald Lewis [00:03:58]:
Okay. Yes. So for me, I consider myself overall a healer. A healer and a channel medium for me are they’re interchangeable for me. I know some people try to make, you know, a different subtle difference between the 2 of a site, of a channel and medium where mediums may just be people who just connect with loved ones. And channel may be someone who connects with the spiritual world, but they connect with higher guys and angels. But for me, it’s all one and the same for me. There’s no separation.
Reginald Lewis [00:04:31]:
And then it comes to the spiritual realm. You know, I connect with ancestors, loved ones, as well as spiritual guides, ascended masters, angelic beings, as well as the psychic aspect. But all of my gifts operate in the realm of healing. So what I realized is that no matter who I’m talking to, what their circumstance may be, it’s always about providing that person with a certain sense of empowerment to recognize who they truly are and release whatever blocks that they have that’s keeping them from really elevating in life.
Kari [00:05:02]:
Wow. It’s amazing that we do this with a different set of guides in some ways because you are very connected to departed loved ones. And I know the 2 of us are like, oh, just talking to departed loved ones as if that’s, like, something easy. So I’m not able to do that really very much, and so I wanna give, my adoration to anyone who is able to connect with departed loved ones. And that’s healing in its own right because when we’re grieving and a lot of us don’t have the belief system that our departed loved ones are with us, and that’s healing in its own right. But how is the healing that you do different than just knowing our loved ones are with us?
Reginald Lewis [00:05:53]:
Yeah. So a great example is when I do my mediumship work, and, you know, loved ones come through, but also, you know, spirit guides will come through. They work together as a collective, you know, for our highest good. And so every time, especially when the when the loved one comes through, it’s not always just about them. Of course, they will give pieces of information to give validation that it’s them that I’m connecting with, you know, the person’s loved one. But they also most of the time, they talk about where you are in life. You know what you’re going through. You know, they give advice.
Reginald Lewis [00:06:29]:
They give insight to sort of give that person confirmation that you’re on the right path or, you know, that you’re not alone. And so what my guides always say to me is that it’s not about the dead, even though there’s no such thing as the dead, you know, it’s about the living, you know, so they really come through our loved ones because they’re okay. You know, they’re fine. You know, they’re in a great place. The ones that we’re, they’re more concerned about is us because we’re still here in this three-dimensional world. And we deal a lot with the suffering and the pain and all of the lower vibrational type of things. You know? So we’re the ones that’s still kind of going through this school. You know?
Kari [00:07:09]:
I think some people may have questions about how they’re able to give us advice or guidance if maybe they weren’t even that great at that in real life, like, when they were here. Like, how are they able to help us with their lives once they’re passed?
Reginald Lewis [00:07:29]:
Yeah. That’s a great question because, like you said, some people might say, well, you know, auntie Mary, you know, she wasn’t the greatest person. You know? She was a horrible person. She was really mean and, you know, and etcetera. And it’s like, you know, how does she well, this is the thing that I’ve learned is that the personality, yes, it still continues on the other side. We keep part of our personality, but yes, we do learn and we shift our perspective because one of the things that I’ve learned from spirits or souls that have connected with me is they always say when they cross over, that they go through a period of what they like to call a life review. Okay? And so basically what happens is that their whole life flash before their eyes. It’s almost like watching a projector of scenes, movie scenes.
Reginald Lewis [00:08:20]:
And from the first time when they were born all the way to the end, and they cross every interaction, and they they can literally see every person that they interacted with in life and the impact that they had on them and vice versa. So they actually see the positive that they did, and they also see the negative, the not so good that they did. And so they feel all of that. So basically they kind of let them know, like how much of an impact did you have in that lifetime? Did you learn the lessons that you need to learn? Did you do more positive rather than negative? And so with that, there’s an awakening, there’s a certain awakening. Not to say everybody at the crossover, they become like enlightened all of a sudden, they know everything. No, but they do have a higher perspective now because they’re no longer seeing from the limited identity, you know, the ego of the physical self.
Kari [00:09:15]:
So I’m curious. Are there themes? Like, are there certain things you hear or see a lot that people say, I wish I’d known this, or I wish I’d done this differently, or here’s my advice for the living? Are there certain themes that come up over and over again?
Reginald Lewis [00:09:36]:
Yes, most definitely. One of the things that I received a lot from Spirit connecting with the person I was reading is forgiveness. There’s been many times where the soul will first come through and say, forgive me. You know? And I ask you know, it’s like a dialogue with spirit. The way that I work is I communicate with spirit by telepathically. I’ll ask a question, you know, what does this mean? Why you’re saying this? You know? And then I’ll get information back. And most of the time, what I find out when they ask for forgiveness is that they they make amends with themselves and they’re making amends with that person to say, I know that I wasn’t the best person when it came to this. You know, maybe I did show love or affection, you know, or say I love you.
Reginald Lewis [00:10:22]:
Maybe I did not, you know, encourage you when it was living. You know, they recognize kind of what their downfalls were, you know, or their weaknesses were. And they acknowledge that and they do ask for forgiveness, you know, for that person to acknowledge that, yes, I did make mistakes. I wasn’t the best person in this area and I lacked, but I want to let you know now that I see that and I acknowledge that, and I hope that that brings you, and most of the time it does, it brings the person I’m reading comfort to say, wow, you know, because I’ve always seek that from that person. You know, I always wanted validation from my mom or my dad. You know? They wasn’t the most caring person. You know? They never said that they were proud of me, you know, or that they loved me. And and just that within itself, it just brings so much relieving and lifts a weight off of that person.
Kari [00:11:13]:
Forgiveness is a tricky topic because I think as spiritual people and I know a lot of people watching or listening to this are very spiritual in nature, and we have, like, a spiritual bypassing culture where forgiveness is part of that where a lot of us who know we should forgive don’t go through a process of forgiveness. We just know we should forgive someone, so we’re still having the feelings of it, of, like, the pain that they caused us, but, mentally, we are forgiving them. Do you know what I’m saying? Like, we we we are like, okay. I forgive this person, but we’ve not processed because we know we’re supposed to forgive. So do you have any guidance on how to forgive? And also for people who maybe don’t have the resources to see a medium or haven’t seen a medium and don’t get that apology from their loved ones and beyond and are left with this, like, void of, like, I never got closure. Can you give advice on how we can forgive?
Reginald Lewis [00:12:28]:
Yes. One of the things that I I’ve learned personally as well as through my kind of forgiving and learning personally as well, as well as from spirit is that you have to first acknowledge your hurt and your pain. That’s one of the parts of forgiveness is knowledge that, yeah, I’m hurt that I have this wound, you know, inside of me. I think a lot of times, like you said, people will say I forgive, but then certain things happen that would trigger and they realize, oh my God, I’m still holding onto this. You know, I didn’t know I was holding onto this, you know, and it’s because they never really acknowledged, you know, that pain. They never acknowledged that hurt inside of them. When you first acknowledge it, that gives you a certain sense of empowerment and control over it because it’s like the saying, know thyself. You know, knowledge is power.
Reginald Lewis [00:13:23]:
The more you have knowledge or awareness of something, the more power and control you have of it in regards to yourself. So when you’re acknowledging that shame inside of you that you had or that guilt, Now you have awareness of it, who gives you more control over whether it rather than it being something subconscious that was controlling you. So you have awareness of it. Once you allow yourself to fall into that awareness and the knowledge that pain hurt, sit in it. It’s okay to sit in it. Okay? Because it’s a process where it’s not just gonna go away immediately. You have to allow yourself to say, okay, I gotta get comfortable with this when I have it so that you could get to the point to give yourself permission to say, now I can release it. A lot of times people think, okay, I forgive it.
Reginald Lewis [00:14:13]:
I acknowledge it. Okay. I release it and let it go install. No. There’s it’s a process. There’s a process of releasing, you know, that pain. It’s like, for instance, if you physically hurt yourself, say you got a paper cup, it doesn’t really go away. It’s going to be there for for a little bit and you have to notch, ouch, this hurts.
Reginald Lewis [00:14:34]:
You know, you might get mad, upset, cuss, whatever, you know, but you have to acknowledge and you have to sit in it. And then as you allow to sit in it and acknowledge that pain, you know, there’s that, okay, it slowly starts to dissipate. It slowly starts to dissipate, and it begins to heal. And and you get to a point where you say, okay. I can release this now. You know, I don’t have to keep, you know, boohooing, you know, over this cut. Like, it’s healing and allow yourself to go through that process naturally allowed to
Kari [00:15:02]:
heal. That’s really beautiful. And of course we hear the expression, you have to feel to heal, but I think a lot of us don’t recognize that we actually really need to do that. That it’s a physical thing. This emotional process. It can’t be done just with the mind. And I think a lot of us who are on the spiritual path are also afraid to acknowledge the anger we have for anyone departed or alive. Because we’ll be like, well, they had a tough life, and that’s why they were like that.
Kari [00:15:38]:
Do you think it’s okay to say, I’m really angry still? Or, like, is that part of the feel to heal situation? Is that
Reginald Lewis [00:15:47]:
Yes. Yes. That’s what I was saying. Acknowledging fully acknowledging what you feel to say, I’m hurting. I have pain. You know? I’m ashamed. I also feel guilty that I feel all these things because one of the things that we know is that the mind and body is connected. And so a lot of the times the physical things that we deal with, you know, with elements, dis easement and things of that nature, there’s a deeper aspect to it, not just physical.
Reginald Lewis [00:16:20]:
There’s a deeper aspect emotionally, energetically that causes, you know, for us to go through what we’re going through physically. It’s a projection, a manifestation of what we’re dealing with on a much more deeper level emotionally and mentally. So as you said, a lot of the times people will realize when they allow themselves to acknowledge that pain or that negativity, that usually they will feel it somewhere in their body. A lot of times people will feel it on their chest, in the heart area. Sometimes people will feel it on their shoulders and their back, aches, you know, things that they have back problems, you know, in their bones, you know. So the body literally absorbs and manifests it. You know? So we have to go through that process, you said, of filling in whatever way that it was to express itself in order for it to come up.
Kari [00:17:14]:
Yeah. And I think you talk about that guilt and shame, and I think a lot of us have guilt and shame for having those feelings. So can we acknowledge that it’s okay, like, to have to have Yes. Very what we see as unspiritual feelings to to say, I’m really mad, or this feels unfair?
Reginald Lewis [00:17:37]:
Yes. And I’m glad you said that because most people think it’s it’s not spiritual. And you know what I say? I say life is spiritual. We’re going through a spiritual process. Being human is a spiritual process because if you think what is spirituality, think about the 2 words spiritual and then you have reality. It’s your spirituality. It’s the way that this spirit is expressing itself. Okay.
Reginald Lewis [00:18:02]:
So you have to realize we are spiritual beings. If you believe we are spiritual beings having a physical experience, not the other way around, our spirit, our soul chose to be in these lifetimes, chose to be within these bodies to express itself through its personality, to go through this school called life, called earth. So it’s actually is a spiritual process when we go through the pain, when we go through the hurt. So the more that we embrace being human, being human beings, as well as spiritual beings, then we’re fully embracing our spirituality and our spiritual expression.
Kari [00:18:36]:
I love that. And, you know, one of the people I needed to forgive the most was me. And I think we all go through that. And mine was very existential because I came in even though I was born in a very secular family who didn’t believe in a lot of anything, I came in with a very deep belief in reincarnation and past lives, and I remembered a lot of mine and or elements of it. And I had an awareness that we choose our lives even as a little girl, and I was mad at myself for choosing a very difficult early part of my life. And I didn’t even choose one of the harder ones. I mean, there’s definitely more challenging ones. I was very lucky and blessed in many ways.
Kari [00:19:24]:
Right? So but I was like, really? Really? Like, is this you had a choice, and this is what you chose. I mean, can you speak to that level of forgiveness? And I know we all have things that we go through where we’re like, I chose this partner, and I wanna talk about that with you with matchmaking and how that can, like, hold people up from finding their soulmates if they’re holding blame and resentment for themselves or others. Can you talk about that sense of holding on to this blame and shame and guilt about our decisions and how that’s important in our lives to, like, have some elements of challenges and grief and and all that, and also how that can help us moving forward when we move through that. It’s a double question, but I know you have the capacity to handle all of that.
Reginald Lewis [00:20:28]:
Yeah. I’m with you. I’m with you. So what I have realized through my own wisdom, growing, learning, is that like you, I had a very clear knowing at a very early age that there was more to life than the physical than what I saw, felt. I just knew that I wasn’t this body. You know, I always just kinda knew like I’m bigger than that. And, like, my life has always been sort of kind of like this out of body experience, you know, where it’s like, I know I’m in this body, but it’s like, I feel like I’m on the outside observing my life and everything around me. You know? And what I realized is that that was my higher self, me being tuned and connected with my higher self.
Reginald Lewis [00:21:16]:
Because one of the things is that this aspect of us that’s in this physical body expressing itself is only a very small aspect of who we are. Who we truly are is way bigger than this body. This is just a a tiny weeny piece of who we are expressing itself. And so the higher self is that part that is still connected with us, but that is sort of, you could say kind of in the higher dimensions, you know, kind of hovering over the physical body. As we say, we all know we have auras and we have layers to our multidimensional self. So I’m saying that to a knowledge first that, yes, we choose to come here and we choose our parents. We choose our life circumstances, our struggles, our difficulties, our highs and our lows to once again, learn and to grow and to evolve. Okay.
Reginald Lewis [00:22:13]:
As a spiritual being, meaning, for instance, you said, you know, you were very frustrated as a young girl. You know? Why? Why did I, you know, choose to, you know, be
Kari [00:22:23]:
in a situation? Many things situation. That bodies and and people, you know, circumstances to choose from. Why choose the challenges? Why so many challenges?
Reginald Lewis [00:22:34]:
Exactly why. And that’s the question most people ask. Why? Why? Why did I choose that? Why am I experiencing this? You know? How come I choose to be, you know, rich, you know, and the rich family would be wealthy. You know? How come I choose to be in a healthy body? And, you know, if we choose, how come I won’t choose the perfect life?
Kari [00:22:52]:
That was a lot of mine growing up because I had health issues. Yeah.
Reginald Lewis [00:22:56]:
Yeah. Why would I choose to be in this life of suffering and pain and etcetera? And why would I choose a perfect life? Well, you wouldn’t come here then. You wouldn’t even choose to incarnate. You could have just stayed in the spirit world. You know?
Kari [00:23:11]:
Where where things are very easy.
Reginald Lewis [00:23:14]:
Or things yeah. Exactly. You know? That was the reason to challenge ourselves. Okay. To challenge ourselves, to become more conscious and aware beings that we are co creators of our reality. Okay. That that we have more power and choice and decisions in our life than we realize. I think that’s the part part of the veil or the forgetting that we have of why we chose here, why we chose to become, you know, human beings, incarnated beings is so that we can learn, so that we can, can, we won’t choose the easy way.
Reginald Lewis [00:23:57]:
Because if it was the easy way here, then everything would be perfect on life. We would already be living in this utopia. But that’s not the purpose of Earth. The purpose of it, like I said, is a school, is to learn. So once again, when you experience difficulties and it’s a learning process, that is a learning process within itself to say, oh, you know what? I chose this relationship. Okay. It may have been an abusive relationship. So why would I choose to be an abusive? Why would I choose to be abused? Once again, you have to look at the bigger picture.
Reginald Lewis [00:24:27]:
You’re not looking from the ego, not looking from the physical perspective, looking from it as a soul to knowledge. Okay. I am a soul. Okay. Why did my soul choose this body? Okay. I’m going through this just because maybe I’m learning to love and accept myself and where I am. You know, maybe I’m learning to say, okay, I’m stronger than what I am because this circumstance or situation is not ending me. It may be challenging me and stretching me and expanding me, but it’s helping me to become more aware that I am much more courageous than I am, you know, that I’m stronger, that I can overcome, you know? So we’re learning these virtues.
Reginald Lewis [00:25:11]:
We learn, we’re learning these qualities of our higher selves to implement them in this lifetime, which we carry forward in the higher realms or the next lifetime. And that’s the thing is that our soul is a composite of all of our life experiences. Okay. So everything that we’ve learned in the prior life, we carry that within this life. Everything we didn’t learn in that prior life, we carry within this life to learn until we learn and master what I like to call self mastery. We master that emotion. We master that awareness, and then we move on to the next thing.
Kari [00:25:49]:
People think mastery is just something you get by just I don’t know. Like, people I know in numerology, everyone’s like, oh, I wanna be a master number. And I’m like, don’t you realize that means there’s more challenges? Like, you have to master. So they think it means, I’m a master. I’m like, well, how do you think you get to that point? Right? You have to, like
Reginald Lewis [00:26:13]:
Yeah.
Kari [00:26:13]:
Like, a diamond needs all that, like, abuse in some ways. I was even looking at, when I was younger, I grew up in New York, and I grew up near the Hayden Planetarium. I love going to the planetarium. And they did this thing about the moon, and, like, the moon is just pummeled. That’s why it has those craters and things like that. And the moon is your emotions and your it’s really your inner world. And I thought, isn’t that interesting? Like our moon, our luminous being that lights up the night sky has been pummeled. Right? And that’s our moon.
Kari [00:26:58]:
That’s one of our luminaries. So why wits? Yeah. Yeah.
Reginald Lewis [00:27:01]:
Yeah. And it’s, honey. I just wanna interject you, Sunny, that you say that because if you think about the metaphor of life and how we see the moon from afar and it’s this beautiful illuminated, you know, thing that we’re watching, you know, but close, like you see in the close-up and you’re there, you see all these craters, it’s not as beautiful. But once again, it’s that perspective from afar, you know, from being up close and personal and there and being from afar. There’s a difference in in your perspective and awareness of how you perceive what you’re perceiving.
Kari [00:27:36]:
Maybe the creators are part of the beauty too. And the thing is too, I think we all have our public lives and our private lives, and we look at people’s lives and we think, wouldn’t that be easier? And some people do choose an easier life. But
Reginald Lewis [00:27:50]:
Yes.
Kari [00:27:51]:
We all
Reginald Lewis [00:27:52]:
But no one has no everyone has challenges. It don’t matter whether you whether you have all the money in the world, you know, or no money, you still have challenges.
Kari [00:28:02]:
Yeah. You know?
Reginald Lewis [00:28:03]:
Whether you’re the most beautifulest so called beautifulest person in the world, healthiest person, you still have challenges.
Kari [00:28:09]:
Yeah. And there’s blessings and challenges to even blessings. Do you know what I mean? Like, money, all these things have responsibility. Great power brings great responsibility. And ask anyone who’s famous. Like, you have to cultivate, like, the moon. Like, it’s not like it’s easy. All that scrutiny.
Kari [00:28:32]:
You have to be tempered. And the process of tempering metal, again, is like takes a little bit of pummeling, and that’s life on earth. And so I’m curious. You brought up the let’s say you were in an abusive relationship, and I think anyone who’s had a relationship that wasn’t perfect, and people have children with people that they may not even talk to later or can be con contentious in some ways. What would you say to people who are like, well, why would I choose that?
Reginald Lewis [00:29:07]:
Yeah. Well, the first thing I would say to that individual is to first allow yourself to step back, take a step back, meaning look at overall. Look at your journey through the process from the beginning to the end and everything in between. And kind of become allow yourself to become the observer.
Kari [00:29:36]:
Mhmm.
Reginald Lewis [00:29:38]:
Okay? You know, there’s a saying, you know, hindsight
Kari [00:29:42]:
2020. Is
Reginald Lewis [00:29:42]:
what? 2020. Exactly. You know, there there’s a meaning behind that. You know? It’s like once again, when you’re in the midst of things, most of the time, we’re reactive beings. You know, we’re just reacting to everything, reacting to our emotions and circumstances, other people, etcetera. And then, you know, when we’re out of it and we’re from afar, we start to begin to introspect, you know, and meditate and become reflective. And we we look at it from afar and then we see things that we didn’t see before when we were in the midst of it. It was like being in the middle of the storm, you know, and being at, you know, and everything is just swirling, you know, and you see Casper, then when you’re outside of it, you kind of see, you see everything, the aftermath of everything.
Reginald Lewis [00:30:27]:
You could process it differently. So when it comes to abusive relationships, I’ve dealt with many clients, you know, who’ve been, you know, male, you know, and female.
Kari [00:30:36]:
Yeah. There’s people think it’s just women, but people can use people in many different ways.
Reginald Lewis [00:30:44]:
Yeah. Exactly. And and those individuals that have experienced it, you know, they would ask, you know, why? You know, why did I go through this? Why did I choose to experience so much pain and and difficulty? But then I say, that’s not the question. That’s not the core question. It’s not why. The key question is what. What did I learn from that? What did I learn from that experience? You know? What did this person teach me? What did they show me within me? Because a lot of the times, what I see is that people like to play the blame game. They like to point the fingers, you know, and say because of this person, because of that person, you know, and they make it all about that other person.
Reginald Lewis [00:31:31]:
But when you make it all about that other person, you’re giving away your power. You know? Because you’re saying, oh, I’m this way because of that person. I experienced it because of that person. You know? Where instead if you say, what did I learn from this person? What did they show me within me? What have I learned about me? You’re taking the focus away from them, putting focus on you so that you can take accountability, which is key and say, okay, now that I’m here and I’m no longer in that situation or circumstance, how am I feeling? What, what can I do with where I am now? And how can I move forward from what I’ve learned from that situation? Because in hindsight, they do realize, oh, even though I went through the most horrible experience, I’m still here, I’m still living, you know, and instead of just existing, I can choose to start to begin to thrive and take control of my life, okay, and what I’ve gone through. Because that pain, yes, I experienced it, but it made me realize that, oh, I’m a very strong person. As I say, what doesn’t kill you make you stronger. And they learn about things about themselves that they wouldn’t have seen before or realized before if they didn’t have that encounter with that person because relationships, whether it’s platonic relationships, trans family or romantic relationships, they’re all a reflection of our reality, you know, and who we are and the things that we need to learn, which is why that person came in our life in the first place because there’s a contract there.
Kari [00:33:06]:
Yeah. And that’s hard for people to understand. And I really want to emphasize again, when you talk about accountability, it’s not to beat yourself up for doing that. Because victims always beat themselves up, it seems. It’s like our first reaction. Like, what could I have done differently? And sometimes it’s that you had to learn how to empower yourself, and your soul was strong enough to empower yourself.
Reginald Lewis [00:33:40]:
Yes. And because the the key thing going back to who we are as spiritual beings having a physical experience is that, you know, it’s a hard reality and pill to swallow for most people just take accountability and say, I allowed this to happen, you know, and, you know, to say, oh, I allowed this person to abuse me. Well, a lot of times it happened because that person didn’t know better, you know, because they were already operating from a place of having low self esteem or low self worth, you know, whether that was the way that they grew up, you know, from their parents or drama that they already carried in, all that person did come into their life is amplified that, you know, to make them realize like, you know, to make them get to the point to say, why am I in this circumstance and situation? Why do I keep going through this same pattern? Why do I keep attracting the same type of person in these relationships, you know, and experiencing the same thing, you know? And once you get to that point, you’re going back to that of, okay, not only why, but what am I learning in this? Then you realize, oh, you know what? When you know better, you do better.
Kari [00:34:50]:
That’s right. That’s right. That’s right. It’s an empowerment journey. It can I think every difficult experience we go through is an empowerment journey? And then also, we help empower others through our experience, and that’s part of why we’re here is to help others. And that said, I wanna ask you more about this matchmaking and how you got into that and how you can maybe help people now who aren’t again, maybe they don’t have the means for the service. And, of course, we’ll put a link to that matchmaking service in our description, in our show notes, or as I accidentally called the other day, the soul notes. We’ll put it in the soul notes below.
Kari [00:35:43]:
I’m sure and even people in relationships, we still have challenges in our relationships. So I wanna know what that journey was like for you getting into that. Obviously, you probably saw some patterns within you or other people, and something also that can help us with that as well.
Reginald Lewis [00:36:03]:
Yeah. So, honestly, it took me quite a bit surprised. I didn’t even know I was gonna end up, you know, creating a matchmaking company and becoming a matchmaker. To make a long story short, in the in the midst of COVID and the lockdown, I remember it was a Saturday, evening and I was at home, like most people watching Netflix, you know, and on my living room couch and, I fell asleep and, I woke up the next morning and as clear as day, there was a download that I had. And there was a name and the name was My Soul Matchmaker. It was so strong and so clear that the first thing I did immediately is I ran to get my laptop to open it up and literally, you know, research it to see, like, the dis name exists.
Kari [00:36:52]:
It has to. It should.
Reginald Lewis [00:36:53]:
Is it out there?
Kari [00:36:54]:
What is the
Reginald Lewis [00:36:55]:
name of your You know, is it out there? You know, this is why it has, you know, a name. You look it up. Nothing. So the next thing I do, I look up the domain. You know, I look it up. Domain is available. So I immediately buy it at that moment. The next thing that I do is, I don’t think much about it.
Reginald Lewis [00:37:15]:
I just literally sit on it because honestly, I never ever thought in my life of doing matchmaking. It’s never in my mind, nowhere within my sphere. And, I sat on it for about a year. Then all of a sudden after, you know, a year, spirit gave me this very clear knowing and message that it’s time. It’s time to do this. It’s time to make this happen. I was a little bit nervous because once again, I don’t know. I never I didn’t know what matchmakers exactly do.
Reginald Lewis [00:37:46]:
Of course, I’ve heard of matchmakers, you know, but I didn’t know, you know, you have to go to school, you know, you have to get certifications, you know. How do you operate, you know, a matchmaking business, you know. I think in spirit like, oh my God, this is crazy. Like, you’re going to stress me out with this, you know. So, so I started doing my research and, you know, I started learning about matchmakers and, and I find this, this lady who, came from a corporate background and she felt unfulfilled and she decided a friend, mentioned to her, how about you go into matchmaking? So she learned about that. And, she built her own company. It was very successful. She became one of the top matchmakers internationally, and she was so successful that she sold her matchmaking company.
Reginald Lewis [00:38:32]:
Yes. And she had an ebook about it that I that I read and I fell in love with it. It was so inspirational that I found out that she had a school for teaching matchmaking. And I know who knew?
Kari [00:38:45]:
Your guys.
Reginald Lewis [00:38:45]:
And so I said to be like, say, exactly, my guys, the universe, spirit, they knew what they were doing. Exactly. So I said, this makes perfect sense. I’m going to join, you know, her program and, you know, get certified and learn all of the ins and outs. Another thing that I didn’t realize afterwards is that in my work, one of the number one areas that I deal with is love relationship.
Kari [00:39:07]:
Yes.
Reginald Lewis [00:39:09]:
So so 15 years doing my work, love and relationship is the
Kari [00:39:14]:
number one area
Reginald Lewis [00:39:15]:
I dealt with every
Kari [00:39:16]:
We’ll talk about that in a minute.
Reginald Lewis [00:39:18]:
I started off young. So so these looks are very distinct. I have a big DFA.
Kari [00:39:24]:
Well, I’m gonna pinch your cheeks. See, my inner inner yenta comes out. You may not even know what a yenta is, but it’s
Reginald Lewis [00:39:33]:
Yeah. I know.
Kari [00:39:33]:
If you went to matchmaking school, perhaps it came up.
Reginald Lewis [00:39:37]:
Exactly. Yeah. It’s part of the learning process. So so I, I didn’t realize after I said, Reggie, you know, you had you have had experienced 15 years love and relationship. Every circumstance you could think of, I have literally dealt with every relationship, circumstances, situation, you know, marriages, divorce, separation, you know, gay, straight, abuse, you name it. I have literally dealt with it. So I have a lot of experience and knowledge dealing with relationships. And so what I realized one of the things is that the name My Soul Matchmaker, I realized that one of the key things that I saw that people lacked and trying to find their soulmate or their life partner is first a lack of self awareness and self knowledge and not being clear in who they are and what their values are and what their worth is.
Reginald Lewis [00:40:34]:
Once again, like I said, we attract people in our life based on who we are. Okay. So a lot of times I realize, you know, once again, people say, I keep getting into these relationships of dealing with narcissists. You know? That’s a huge
Kari [00:40:49]:
one. Empaths and narcissists are like we are a match made in heaven a lot of times. Because we were like, oh, my soul contract. I wanna find a a narcissist to teach me how to believe in myself and and put my needs first.
Reginald Lewis [00:41:05]:
Exactly. You know? So that happens. And then that person has to realize first awareness of their sensitivity and realizing that their sensitivity is not a weakness, that is a strength because what happens is that narcissist, real narcissist, just to let people know, because I think a lot of people would throw that word out there, you know, when it’s a very real sickness, you know, that people deal with, you know, and mental thing
Kari [00:41:31]:
that people
Reginald Lewis [00:41:32]:
deal with. And a lot of times what happens is that a person who’s sensitive or an empath, when they’re not very confident within themselves, and their worth and self value, it’s, it’s a recipe for disaster and attracting a narcissist because narcissists, they like to feed on people that they feel that they can feed on their emotions, you know, and that they can mold and control, you know. And, if you’re a person that’s not very confident in who you are and know who you are, then that person is just gonna play on that. They’re gonna play on your insecurities, you know. They’re gonna play on your lack of self awareness. So when that person realized, okay, you know what? My sensitive is not a weakness. It’s strength. It’s okay me for me to feel the way that I feel, not allow someone who see at least to play on that and make me feel bad about how I feel and my sensitivity, you know, and make me feel less than, then that person can no longer kind of play on those heartstrings, you know, or play with you mentally or manipulate you mentally.
Reginald Lewis [00:42:39]:
And so that’s what I help a lot of people with usually is overcoming that pattern, you know, so that they can stop attracting narcissists and begin to attract someone who is worthy of their gift, their sensitivity, who will nurture their sensitivity, you know, someone who will match them on the level where they are or someone who will uplift them, you know, or have the spiritual awareness. So it’s like, you know, they’re saying, I say change your thoughts if you change your life. It’s very true. You change your thoughts, you change the way that you think, you change your mentality, you change your perspective. Your life, it does begin to change. And the people that you attract, it begins to change in the relationships that you begin to attract. You attract a higher quality, being, you know, a more high value being. And so you so you graduate from that level attracting narcissists to attracting very spiritually like minded individuals, conscious beings.
Kari [00:43:40]:
That’s beautiful. And I would love to have you back even to talk just about that as well. And so I wanna be very aware to keep this in a container of time that people can synthesize all the incredible things that you’re sharing with them. So how would you encapsulate a way for empaths, especially if you maybe have esteem issues or boundary issues? Is there something that you can share with us that can help us recognize because it’s easy to say believe in yourself, but what does that even mean? Can you share what that means and how we can do that?
Reginald Lewis [00:44:32]:
Yes. First thing is do the work, do the self work. Don’t be afraid to do the self work. You know, once again, first look at the mirror, look in the mirror, look at you, take time to self reflect. I love, I love the word soul search. Do some soul searching. I’m very huge on that. You know, I’m saying do some soul searching, take more time for you getting to know yourself inside and out.
Reginald Lewis [00:45:05]:
Okay. Building a relationship with yourself, you know, beginning beginning to love who you are, beginning to love the aspect of you that’s growing. That’s an evolved, evolving being, you know, to say, yeah, you are not perfect. No one’s perfect in regards to the way other people may perceive you, but you are exactly where you need to be as far as growing and evolving. Okay. So allow you to go through that process. The other aspect is once you begin to do the work on you, beginning to be clear, be very intentional, and be very clear about what you desire out of life, what you desire in the partner.
Kari [00:45:50]:
Yeah.
Reginald Lewis [00:45:50]:
You know? Be very specific. Be very clear. I want someone who’s who’s conscious and aware and loving and and nurturing, you know, who understands my sensitivity, you know. I want a partner who very much so is encouraging, empowering, and where we can work together and empower each other and uplift each other and grow together. Know your core values. That’s a key part of my matchmaking company. Okay. And how I deal with my clients and how I match make is I get to the core of what is what are your core values? What do you have to bring to the table? And what do you want someone else to bring to the table? Because my big question was when I first began developing my matchmaking company is what is that one thing that keeps people together or growing, evolving no matter the challenges? Because you’re going to experience challenges.
Reginald Lewis [00:46:52]:
You’re going to experience highs and lows, okay, as you’re evolving growth. What is that one thing that’s the glue that keep you put together? And what came to me was core values. If you have core values, very strong and clear core values, you and that partner, no matter what you can be different cultures, you know, come from different cultures, have different religions. You can you can have different, you know, taste and and food and there could be but if you say, you know what, what matters to me the most is being a good person, you know, and treating people with respect no matter what. Being kind to other people, you know, acknowledging people for who they are and not what I want to perceive or try to make this person to be. If you have those core values, those are, that’s the thing that is going to help you to stay together and to grow and to evolve together. So key core values are important. What are your core core values? What matters to you most in life?
Kari [00:47:55]:
It is important to have what matters to you most in life as part of your core that keeps your relationship together. I’ve actually been with my husband for 30 years. Again, I was a child bride, but but, you know, that’s one of the main things we share. But also he was the first one because he’s also an empath and very psychic. He understood my sensitivity and didn’t mock it in any way, and I’ve been mocked for my sensitivity. That’s, again, one of the challenges growing up that I had that made my life difficult growing up. But it’s our strength is that we’re super, super, super sensitive to each other and the world. And so I think it’s really important, especially for empaths, to find someone and to make sure that’s a core value in many ways is that they appreciate your sensitivity.
Kari [00:49:00]:
Sensitivity. Yes.
Reginald Lewis [00:49:01]:
That they’re understanding. Yeah. They don’t need to be an HSV on
Kari [00:49:03]:
your path, but they need to honor. Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. And that’s the
Reginald Lewis [00:49:07]:
key thing because I thought about myself. You know, I can use
Kari [00:49:13]:
myself for
Reginald Lewis [00:49:13]:
you now. Oh, you do.
Kari [00:49:14]:
That’s why
Reginald Lewis [00:49:15]:
you’re here. As as, you know, I’m really exactly. Is, you know, being a sensitive person, being very aware person. I’m mostly a loner, you know, and, and I don’t mind that because I love me. I love me time. I love quietness. But of course there’s always that aspect to naturally want or desire to have companionship in a way, you know, or to have not just any type of relationship relationship, but someone who’s understanding, someone who can grow with me on the path. And so I said, where did those people go? You know, where do the people, the lightworkers go? You know, where does the conscious, you know, individuals go? Where do the purpose driven individuals go? The mission driven leaders, where do they go to find love? Because a lot of the times, as you know, many others who may be listening to this, it’s a very lonely path.
Kari [00:50:10]:
Yeah. It can be for sure.
Reginald Lewis [00:50:11]:
It’s a very lonely path, you know? And and you may wonder, you know, am I gonna ever meet someone who’s who’s gone who’s going to understand?
Kari [00:50:19]:
It can be lonely, but lonely has a it could be a very solitary, which isn’t necessarily lonely.
Reginald Lewis [00:50:29]:
Yes. That’s true. There is a difference.
Kari [00:50:32]:
It’s the loneliness comes in and for me too because I tend to be, like, very my tastes are very different than what most culture like, I much prefer to be in nature than, like, in a big crowd somewhere. So and some people like both, but I I truly don’t enjoy crowds very much typically. But you were in Vegas, so, like, obviously, you’re very comfortable with that and and and enjoy that. And I was a performer too. I was an actress for many years. But in terms of my personal life, I really enjoy, like but the when we have a judgment that there’s something wrong with us for having a more solitary path, that’s when I think. And we again, we could talk about that for ages. Yes.
Reginald Lewis [00:51:23]:
And I’m, you know, I’m glad you brought that up, though. I I was gonna say one thing about that. You’re totally right. It’s it’s the difference between, you know, alone, feeling alone and like you said, feeling solitude because I enjoying my my peace. I I love actually being by myself like I do. Now I like to be what I desire sometimes is being around people of like minded, you know, like minded, but I’m very discerning because I know I just can’t have anyone around me or entertain anyone because it could be very draining unless that person is very much on the same vibration or awareness, you know? So I’m very discerning, you know, and I’m okay. I have a very small group of friends, you know, I’ve always been like that, you know, and you know, even when it comes to relationships, I’m very discerning, you know, and I’m okay with that because I know as I grow and evolve, as long as I continue to be happy with myself and at peace with myself, I will attract someone who’s going to meet me on that level or higher. So I’m okay with being where I’m at, you know, until that person comes along, you know, because I know that I will attract who I am.
Kari [00:52:37]:
Right. And I wanted to emphasize this, that that is the key to relationships as well. They will not complete you. You need to be the person that you wanna be with. And then
Reginald Lewis [00:52:49]:
so Exactly. People compliment you.
Kari [00:52:52]:
Compliment with an e, not like you need constant compliments with an I, like constant affirmation. So that being said, I always like to end these sessions with a magic lesson, something that people can incorporate and take into their daily lives and think about and assimilate, something simple and easy. What magic lesson would you like to share today about anything we’ve discussed today?
Reginald Lewis [00:53:15]:
Okay. The first thing that comes to mind is intention. To be intentional. To start your day every day with an intention. Okay. Being intentional how you want your day to go. You know, be intentional about what you want to experience throughout that day, the feeling, the emotion, and, you know, just be very intentional because I believe we we are all our own genies and we live in a universe where the universe, I do believe, is like a genie, you know, and it gives us exactly what we want, what we desire, whether, you know,
Kari [00:53:54]:
on a soul level. So make it make it very on a physical level too.
Reginald Lewis [00:54:00]:
Yeah. Exactly. Exactly. So perspective is everything in the mind is very powerful thing. You know, so when we start to begin to live our life intentional, you know, I believe that life really becomes a little it moves along a little bit more smoother and there’s a little bit less not saying there’s that can be any bumps, but a little bit less bumps in the road because you’re very clear and intentional about your life and how you wanna live your life. And so I believe really that the universe and everything around you once again will begin to align with whatever that your intention is. So be very intentional. Try to be intentional every day when you wake up.
Reginald Lewis [00:54:37]:
And for instance, I wake up every day and the first thing I make sure that I say when I wake up no matter what is thank you. So I’m being intentional about waking up and starting my day with gratitude.
Kari [00:54:48]:
Thank you. I have so much gratitude for you, and my intention today was having an incredible, inspiring, fun, and wise conversation with you, and I feel like you helped me fulfill that intention. So thank you for this incredible inspirational discussion. I hope you’ll come back because I’m sure there’s more that people want to enjoy from you. And if anyone wants to get in touch with you for a session, could you still do sessions? Correct?
Reginald Lewis [00:55:24]:
Yes.
Kari [00:55:24]:
And your matchmaking service, which is, if you can tell us the links and I’ll include them in the sole notes below. So how do we get in touch with you if we want to? What’s your website and websites?
Reginald Lewis [00:55:39]:
Yes. So anyone who wants to get in contact with me for, you know, 1 on 1 session, you can go to my website reginaletlowes.comorthesoulteacher.com. And if you’re interested in my matchmaking company, which is free to sign up, so just let everybody know it’s free to sign up, and you wanna join my soulmate database. That’s what I call it. You could go to my soul matchmaker.com. My soul matchmaker.com.
Kari [00:56:02]:
So much. I loved every millisecond of this, and I’m sure so many people have benefited from your love and light and wisdom. Thank you, Reginald. And thank you all for listening. So much love. Bye for now. Thanks for listening to Get Psyched with Carrie Samuels. If you want more intuitive insights and inspiration, go to carrisamuels.com for all things divine.
Kari [00:56:30]:
Until next time. Trust in your magic, and let your light shine.
