Kari Samuels, Intuitive Counselor

Karma, balance, and why being “nice” isn’t always good

Happy Spring Equinox! This magical time of year signifies that balanca of light and dark, sun and moon, masculine and feminine. Last night in my Divine Intuition class, we talked about the nature of true balance, especially in terms of relationships. People were particularly intrigued  when we talked about being “nice” as not necessarily what’s best for us. It’s such a compelling and important topic, I will be writing a newsletter about it soon.

One thing we discussed is karma as balance, rather than a judgement of good or bad deeds. Oftentimes, we think we are doing the “right” thing by automatically forgiving someone who has wronged us, or by turning the other cheek to people who are treating us poorly and allowing them to dump their negative energy on us. One interpretation of “turning the other cheek” that might be beneficial is not taking another person’s actions personally when they act poorly towards you, therefore not engaging in the drama. So instead of taking on a person’s negativity and being “nice” about it, you can choose to view their negativity as a reflection of themselves rather than you, view that person with compassion, and disengage from that dynamic by choosing self-respect and self-care. Try that and see how that works for you!

If you think of all relationships of having a measure of energy, what is given and received, when we are in a reciprocal energy exchange those scales of karma are balanced. Yet, sometimes when we are being “nice” instead of standing up for ourselves, or asserting our right to be treated better, or walking away from people who mistreat us, then we can be tipping those karmic scales. We will keep attracting situations towards us to help us correct that balance until it is righted. You might want to look at any uncomfortable situation in your life that you seem to attract over and over again, and see if there is a lesson there about reciprocal energy exchange. You can evaluate whether you are giving too much or too little in that circumstance relative to the outcome, and make appropriate adjustments.

Too, if you are one of these people who tries to be “good” all the time and do the right thing, you might want to examine how that plays out in your relationships. Examine whether you are in reciprocal relationships, or if there is stuck pattern that needs to be rectified.

You might also want to look at the balance within yourself – do you have a balance of work and play? Alone time with socializing? Exercise and stillness? Just something to think about during this Equinox…